Prophet
Muhammad said “there are three obligations as a parent to fulfill children’s
authority, first parent must give the best name for their children, then the
second parent must educate their children with al-Qur’an and the third parent
must be marry their children when they have adult”.
1. Give the best name
Prophet is
known to have given great
attention to the problem of name.
Whenever he finds
a name that is not interesting (worth) and
meaningless, he would change
with appropriate name. He changed
the various names of men and women. As in the
hadith presented by A'ishah, that the
Messenger of Allah ordinary change
the names that are not good. (Narrated by Tirmidhi)
He likes a good
name. When entering a new city, he asked its name. When the name of the city was bad, he would change with a better replacement.
He does not let
the name of something
unseemly, a person, a city or a region. Someone who originally named Ashiyah (who likes to
engage in immoral) is replaced by Jamilah (beautiful), Harb is replaced by
Salman (peacefully), Syi'bul Dhalalah (heretical group) is replaced by Syi'bul
Huda (right group) and Banu Mughawiyah (cheat offspring) is replaced by the
Banu Rushdi (the rightly guided offspring) and so on (Narrated by Abu Dawood
and the other hadith An-Nawawi, Al Azkar: 258).
Regard to the
names of good for the child, the Messenger of
Allah said, "Verily, you all
will be called on the Doomsday with the
names of you, then trigged up your name." (HR.Abu Dawud)
2. Brought up with Al-Qur’an
On one occasion,
Commander of the Faithful Umar bin Khattab presence of
a man who complains about his son naughtiness, "My
son is very stubborn."
Commander of the Faithful said, "Are you not afraid of God because of you brave to fight your father and did
not fulfill your father’s authority?" The smart kid interrupts. "O
Commander of the Faithful, how about parent
who do not have the obligation to fulfill the authorities of
their children?"
Umar replied, "There are three, namely: First,
choose a good mother for your future children. Second, choose a good name for
your children. Third, bring up them with the Qur'an." Hear
a description of Khalifah
Umar the child
replied, "The name of Allah,
my father did not choose a good mother for
me then him naming me “Bats Males”, while he also ignores Islamic education
for me., I had
not been taught by him although single
verse. Then Umar turned to his father and
said, "You have disobeyed your son, before
he dared to you".
3.
Please marry him/her
When the son or daughter
has entered the age of marriage, please
marry him/her. Do not let them continue and get lost in wilderness of disobedience. Pray and encourage them
to the family life, do not wait for old age. If
there are sense of worry about
not getting sustenance and bear the heavy
burden of the family, God has promised to cover
it if they along with the effort
and hard work that
he did, as his word, "Please Marry your children (unmarried) and those who
have entered to the time for married. If they are the ones
who are not capable,
Allah will give them a wealth of his grace.
"(Surat an-Nur: 32)
Occupational of the faith is more worthy precedence
than apprehensive that often haunt us. Prophet in this regard said, "There
are three cases that cannot be slowed: prayer, when it was the time, corpse when it came and third, if the woman has been meet with the soul
mate that fits." (HR.
Tirmidzi)
